Hello, and Welcome to my Website
I am a humanist celebrant working in the Coventry area. I hope that you will find here some ideas about the humanist ceremony that you are considering.
Like all humanists officiating in the United Kingdom, I have been trained and accredited by the British Humanist Association to deliver humanist and non religious weddings, humanist naming ceremonies and humanist funeral services.
I also have a deep personal connection to humanism and humanist ceremonies. Ceremonies have been around since the first humans lived, they fulfil a desire to mark and celebrate the big moments in our lives. I look forward to hearing how I can help you plan and hold a ceremony that is written specially for you.
When we mark an important event, we often want to involve our family and our friends. We want to share our emotions as we say ‘hello’ to a new arrival, ‘congratulations’ to a new couple or ‘farewell’ to a lost friend or relative; there is comfort in sharing those events. These days many people, who are approaching let’s say a joyful event, want to share their joy in a way that is honest to their ideas and perceptions — without hypocrisy.
Words of Gratitude
Bob, Thank you so much for your kindness, patience and support in planning and delivering Harris’ naming ceremony. It was such a special day and we were so pleased and proud.
Best wishes, Kate, Andy and Harris
A big thank you for the ceremony you did for us last Friday. It went down really well. We had lots of lovely comments about it during the day, we both loved it.
Thanks again, Andy and Lisa
Bob, Once again we thank you for all that you have done for us. It was avery special day in so many ways and you played a large part in it. We wish you and yours all the very best for the future.
Chris and Sue
My wife and I (now with 2 grown up children) still look back on our wedding day as special and memorable. I understand how important the day is and even after over 500 ceremonies (weddings, namings, funerals) I feel honoured to be asked to help create such a day for others.
I have received many heartfelt letters of thanks (see below.)
During early conversations I try to establish exactly what kind of ceremony is required, considering the people involved and the venue. I have conducted weddings in many different venues e.g. hotel, restaurant, pub, garden, hill top, farmer’s field.
With so much experience I am able to offer lots of suggestions and ideas; for readings, music etc. After, we work together, through email and further meetings, to refine and perfect the script.
With many years experience as a teacher and actor I am able to project my voice, and establish rapport with an audience.
I have a working knowledge of French, Spanish, Italian and Portuguese and have conducted weddings in France, Spain, Poland and Portugal.
Some extracts from letters:
It was a very special day and we feel very lucky to have created our own unique wedding.
Thank you for such a beautiful, personal, memorable ceremony. So many people have commented on the magical atmosphere you created.
Thank you for the masterly way you conducted the ceremony. We have received many compliments on how real and heartfelt it was.
People are still talking about it a month after.
Thank you for all the hard work both in the run up to the wedding and on the day itself. You were a pillar of calm for us and delivered the most wonderful ceremony. An absolute success, enjoyable and memorable.
Many years ago I decided I would become a celebrant for the BHA. The experience of an absolutely brutal religious funeral left me reeling. Thankfully, this was followed by several heartwarming and, oddly, life-affirming Humanist funerals.
Several years later, here I am, repaying the debt. I’m not just doing funerals. I also do baby namings and welcomings as well as weddings. All significant milestones are worthy of a ceremony. If you have an idea you want to explore with me, just get in touch.
I’ve been training indirectly for celebrancy since I was in my twenties. I was an actor for twelve years. I left the theatre in 1987 to make space for my writing. Since then I’ve had seven poetry collections published. My fiction also appears in a number of anthologies and fiction magazines. I’ve worked as a writer in residence in a prison and various hospitals and I run writing workshops from time to time in schools and community centres. You can see some of the work I do if you click on my website opposite.
I’m interested in how we as human beings make sense of our lives. I’m interested in how we pass things on from generation to generation, how we learn to be friends, good neighbours, good parents, good partners. I’m equally fascinated by how we get things wrong! Humanity is complex.
I come from a tradition of Humanist thinking. My great-grandfather was an admirer of Robert Ingersoll. He had this to say:
This day shall be mine. From the first gray streak of its early dawn till the last golden ray of its setting sun melts away on the horizon of the West, it shall belong to me.
With charity for all, I will go my way, following the dictations of my own conscience; and strive with all my power to lift my fellow-man from the darkness that surrounds him.
I will live so that should tomorrow dawn, I may look upon to-day with a feeling that I have added my humble mite to the cause of Justice and Humanity.
And it shall bring me much joy.
— Thomas Heath Flood
That’s not a bad philosophy.
And here’s my motto: Carpe diem. Seize the day! But don’t just seize it — make it count.